We are often told that we just need to say no to a few things so that we don’t get ourselves over committed. After all, we cannot do everything our customers ask us, and we cannot go after every possible market. Some folks will ask if you are going to teach the team how to say no. Because if you don’t say no, you just keep adding more work to an already overloaded plan. Well, we just say no to that question. No, we are not going to teach people how to say no. We don’t think that is the question. Instead, we see the need to learn how to make choices.
To make a really simpleminded analogy, remember as a kid when you asked your mom or dad for an ice cream cone. Then, as they were about to buy it you asked for a milk shake too. They might have said, we only have money for one, so you can have one or the other, not both. That may have been one of your first choices in life. That lesson was very valuable in that it was going to be an important principle in your business career.
Let’s get a little more real. There isn’t a day that goes by that you aren’t asked to do something that was not in your plan for the day. Most are trivial and you can fit them into your daily schedule. Some represent a major commitment of time and resources and will impact other activities if you try to fit them in. The wisdom that is needed is to know the difference between requests that are trivial and those that are not. So, how does one gain this wisdom?
With experience comes understanding of what it takes to perform many of the tasks related to your job. So when you are asked to perform a familiar task, you can easily give a commitment as to when it will be done. However, when you get a request that you are not sure about, you should do some work to figure out what it takes before you make a commitment. In this process, talk to people who have the experience in order to get advice on what is required and how to perform the tasks needed to fulfill the commitment. You are just asking for trouble when you commit to something that you don’t really understand. The people who fulfill commitments consistently are usually the ones who have really done their homework and who make sure that their plan is on track by frequently checking on progress. Once getting advice, lay out a plan and determine if you have the resources and time to execute the plan. Once you have this kind of information, you can then make a thoughtful response to the person requesting your commitment. Your wisdom is expanded every time you make and fulfill a commitment, and your professional judgment is improved as a result. Your quest is to become a person who people say can be relied upon to get things done. The ultimate in professional recognition comes from being able to consistently meet your commitments.
Sometimes the trivial requests can overcome you too. As Dirty Harry said, “a man has to know his limitations.” It is important to keep track of what you have committed to. Allocate your time as if it is a valued resource. Knowing your limitations in this case means knowing where you are spending your time and if you are spending it on the right things. Keep a calendar and a project schedule. If you know where you are going to spend your time then you can do a much better job of making new commitments. People get into trouble if they are out of control with respect to allocating their time. People who can be relied upon, do a great job of planning their time and take the time for planning.
Sometimes this process of making commitments gets a lot tougher though. What do you do when you cannot get something done in the timeframe that is being requested without impacting another commitment that was previously made? Knowing how to effectively deal with this situation is the key to being a responsive and successful person or team.
When faced with this dilemma, there are several things one must consider and resolve before giving a response.
With all this information, you can now engage in making a choice. Depending on the nature of the impacts of the choice, you can determine what level of management needs to be involved in making the choice. If the impact is only to commitments you have made and nobody else will be impacted by the decision, then it’s up to you to make the choice and manage the implications.
Most tradeoffs do involve a lot of people however. It is necessary to have the levels of management that are affected by the decision participate in making the choice. As with any decision, business factors are weighed and a choice is made. It is what happens after the decision is made that determines the success of making a choice. Here are the steps to follow:
Said simply, but harder to execute, any request should come down to a matter of making choices and dealing with the implications of the decision. Dealing with issues in a straightforward way is the best policy. Getting the issue escalated to the right level of management that can make the choice and then marshalling the resources to manage the impacts is the right way to deal with requests. So, it’s not so much about saying yes or no, but a matter of making a thoughtful choice and communicating to all those affected by it. So when asked to commit to something that will impact current commitments turn the request into alternatives and participate in the process of making a choice.
Bill Warner is the Managing Partner of Paladin and Associates, a business consulting firm in the Research Triangle Park area of central North Carolina, and is the Chairman of the Triangle Accredited Capital Forum, an angel investor network with over one hundred members throughout the southeast.